Friday, 19 October 2012

Looking For Matches

By Arman Cheshire


Computer dating bypasses the necessity of running the club and bar circuit to find someone compatible to perhaps start a relationship with. You begin by posting your profile, a necessary start, which should include interesting things unique to you such as your dreams and aspirations, goals, interests, and hobbies and such matters that distinguish you.

The way you post your personal information gives you your uniqueness. You want to come across as a fun person. You'll want to make the copy flow and be interesting, not just cold facts.

Your profile should be honest, complete and concise but you need to let the fun side of you come through. You need to appear as a pleasure to be with. A few rewrites would be a good idea to polish and showcase your best points and downplay the negatives. If you're the sports and outdoor type accent this as it would indicate compatibility with a like-minded person.

Your picture should be a recent one and not out of date. First impressions are the most lasting and you need to post a good natural appearing picture, not a studio shot.

When you are on an online dating services site you can chat with others online. The speed is slower than a normal conversation, about 1/5 the speed. It gives you a better chance to formalize your thoughts and offers a good opportunity to practice you social communication skills.

Naturally, you want to keep certain information off the record. Keep your personal details, such as address, phone number or email to yourself until you are absolutely certain that you want to go ahead and get more familiar with a particular person you've chatted and vetted.

Think about what properties you are looking for in someone. Look at their religion, ethnicity, level of education, interests, physical conditioning and any areas that might be contentious in the future. Investigate before you get too far involved.

Many professional career-minded singles can't date clients or co-workers. To do so would jeopardize their job and chances to rise in the organization. The unwritten laws are sad but true.

Going to bars and clubs for many seems an artificial and hopelessly random way to find someone to be compatible with if they are at all discerning. Many thinking people have a hard time connecting with someone meaningful by the plastic fantastic club and bar approach.

If one is looking to connect with people with a greater degree of depth, online dating may offer a sensible alternative. You get to profile those whom you are interested in and they can profile you back. There is more choice and in choice there is more freedom.

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